Men Abused by Women
As a profeminist organization, Men For Change believes that:
It is wrong for any man to be abused. We hope the stories provided below encourage men who are abused to reach out and end the silence of your pain. You need not be alone in isolation. Talk to someone you trust and know that you do not deserve to live in a situation where you are unsafe, unloved or abused.
Men For Change Editors Note: It is an ongoing struggle to separate the wheat from the chafe, to find the truth locked within the pain of men's experience of violence. While we wish to sincerely tell the stories men who have been abused by their female intimate partners, there also exists a culture of denial that seeks to blame women, especially feminists, for the pain of changing and old stereotypes in which some men have found safety.
As a pro-feminist men's group it is a challenge to reach out to our brothers who are involved in this backlash against women's progress. Ironically, these men on a political level use the same tactics that abusive men use on a personal level. Some abusive men minimize, blame and deny their violent behaviour. In counseling, abusers will do everything to avoid taking responsibility and I suppose embrace the pain of their actions. Let's make it clear. Some men who are terrified of letting go of the comfort and control that men have held onto for centuries dig in even deeper w Much of the gender rhetoric is caught up in the denial of the extreme control and cent of abuse that have been perpetrated by men towards women, people of colour, and a myriad of oppressed groups over the centuries. In our experience working with male abusers, the entire world is to blame for their violence, they will not take responsibility for their actions, and they project their pain and responsibility upon everyone they can, including their wives and partners. Broken relationships are messy business.